Check yo’self before you wreck yo’self.
Sorry, couldn’t help myself there! But seriously, if we are in business (or are building our businesses) we ideally have plans and methods in place to check the status of things and make sure we are on track.
But what about us? We all have those moments when we need to check in on ourselves, on our own energy and mental health to make sure we are in a good mental space to keep moving.
The question is: how often do we actually do this?
I would be willing to bet that it’s not often. We get busy with the day-to-day minutia of our businesses or our lives and we don’t think twice about looking inward for a self-check.
When I realized how I was neglecting doing this for myself, it was like a light switch turned on in my brain. It said, “Wake up! You’re no good to anyone else if you aren’t good yourself!”
And it absolutely made sense to me. You’re no good to anyone else if you aren’t good yourself.
It clicked right then that the health of my business directly correlated to my own mental and physical health. It hit me that the self-check must be part of my health metrics systems.
Let me submit to you why this is absolutely necessary:
- To make sure your mental health is in good shape
- To make necessary adjustments if things are off track
- To maintain your balance and well-being
Checking in with yourself is something that should be added to regular self-care regime.
What does “self-check” mean?
Think of the gas gauge in your car. When it’s working properly, it lets you know how much gas is in your tank – fancy-schmancy cars will even tell you how many miles you have left based on your average miles-per-hour and even the amount of gas in your tank.
Wouldn’t it be great if there was some way for us to check this with ourselves???
Lucky for you, there is. Click the image below to download you free self-check schedule:
What are you checking for?
The self-check is all about identifying the things that are important to you and making sure they are present in your life.
We are a complex people; there are as many different facets about a single person as there are people on the planet. With that said, this is not a comprehensive, one-size-fits-all self-check gauge – but it is a great start and will hopefully get your mind thinking about what’s most important to you so that you can regularly ground yourself and find the focus you need.
I’ve found that the really important things are based in non-tangibles. Here are some non-tangibles to consider:
- Mental health
- Physical health
- Energy levels
I’ve come to believe that happiness is a choice. We often don’t have a say in the many variables that life throws our way (the people we work with, the family that we have, the maintenance life of our cars, etc) – but one of the few things we do have control over is how we react and respond to these variables.
Choosing happiness doesn’t mean that you put on a fake smile every single day of your life despite feeling like utter crap on the inside. It’s not lying to yourself about the reality around you (if it’s not a desirable reality). It doesn’t mean that you ignore the chaos that may be surrounding you. Choosing happiness means that you choose to be positive through it all. The negative path is a downhill slope and is oftentimes much easier to travel down.
Are you stressed? Are you dealing with a lot of anxiety? What does your overall outlook on life look like?
I often feel that “off” feeling when things are out of balance in my life. Maybe I’m not sleeping well like I need to be. Maybe I’m feeling overwhelmed at work, in my business, or in my personal life. Maybe I just need to take a few days off from work because I haven’t rested in a while.
These simple – but so important – aspects of our lives can easily build up if we aren’t careful. Take time to think about these things and figure out what it will take for you to stay mentally healthy.
Think about the amount of physical activity you get on a daily or weekly basis. If you have a stationary job that doesn’t call for a lot of movement to function properly in that job, consider making the time to incorporate some exercise.
Now don’t look at me like that – even small steps as little as stretching or taking a walk around the office once every hour have their benefits. Remember: a body in motion stays in motion. It’s easier to continue an exercise regiment rather than going the stop-start-stop-start routine.
As an introvert, I know that certain things like prolonged exposure to highly stimulating situations (large parties/groups of people, concerts, etc) drain my energy a lot more quickly than if I’m sitting at home alone and being quiet.
But it took me a long time to realize that that was the reason it would take days after a get-together at a friend’s house for me to get back to my full energy levels. When I finally did clue in on what was going on, it made it that much easier for me to learn how to recover from “social hangovers” or other energy-draining experiences.
As with any other art form, it takes time to develop your routine of self-check. It won’t happen overnight! Just like learning to live intentionally is something you have to adjust to, so it is with your self-checks.
You’ll need to schedule this important time. I know what you’re thinking, “But I already have so much on my plate as it is! That’s just one more thing I have to do!”
Exactly. Often times, when we’re too busy to engage in self-care, in any of its forms, that’s the perfect time to do it.
I’m a big proponent for scheduling things – my motto is, “if it’s not on the calendar, it’s not real!” If self-checking isn’t something that easily or automatically happens for you, look at these ways to incorporate self-check dates with yourself:
- Reach out to friends, family, or trusted acquaintances
- Gauging your personal “meter”
- Drinking enough water
- Yoga or spin classes
- Weekend getaways or day trips
- Engaging in crafty things just for you (BONUS! This can be done in groups with other friends or by yourself for some quality alone time)
I hope you see the value in caring for yourself and making time to make it priority. Remember: you’re no good to anyone else if you aren’t good yourself!